Someone asked me the other day if there was a limit on the age gap between a cougar and cub in a “dating” relationship. Again, my first reaction was, “define dating.” But that’s a discussion and thought process covered previously, so I won’t digress here.
Immediately I wanted to launch into one of my “age is relative” soapbox pontifications - as everyone knows that all 25-year-olds, 30-year-olds, and 40-year-olds are not alike. These numbers (or age speed bumps) would be my point of reference to cubs, of course; with 40 being the very top end, or penthouse view of of cubhood, if you will (and I will.)
On the other hand, cougars tend to maintain the same frame of mind, school of thought, vantage point or rules of the road once they have reached and embraced their cougarhood, and learned to own what that means. They’ve come into their own, they like younger men, and they’re proud of it.
The issue with the age gap as I see it is that although a cub may be charming, have sexy abs, and be interested in cougars, the fact that he just entered his first club last year with his own ID (rather than a fake one) and still sleeps in a twin bed at his mommy’s house, might make it a little difficult to undress him with your eyes without picturing yourself changing his diapers. This, as we like to say, is a mood killer.
Granted, some 22-year olds really have their crap together, and a hot cougar in her late 30s would be more than happy to work something out with this young frat boy – but the chances that a 50-year-old cougar would want to do the same are not quite as high. (Just because Hef did it with the bunnies doesn’t mean all cougars want to do it with all the cubbies.)
The real trick to working out the age spread is not to count the years in the gap but to look for the interest and the spark. While it’s true that age is “just a number,” it’s also true that some people have the ability to make us forget really imporant things – like how to do basic math, like adding and subtracting (cougar age minus cub age equals…) Wait, what was the question again?
Someone asked me the other day if there was a limit on the age gap between a cougar and cub in a “dating” relationship. Again, my first reaction was, “define dating.” But that’s a discussion and thought process covered previously, so I won’t digress here.
Immediately I wanted to launch into one of my “age is relative” soapbox pontifications - as everyone knows that all 25-year-olds, 30-year-olds, and 40-year-olds are not alike. These numbers (or age speed bumps) would be my point of reference to cubs, of course; with 40 being the very top end, or penthouse view of of cubhood, if you will (and I will.)
On the other hand, cougars tend to maintain the same frame of mind, school of thought, vantage point or rules of the road once they have reached and embraced their cougarhood, and learned to own what that means. They’ve come into their own, they like younger men, and they’re proud of it.
The issue with the age gap as I see it is that although a cub may be charming, have sexy abs, and be interested in cougars, the fact that he just entered his first club last year with his own ID (rather than a fake one) and still sleeps in a twin bed at his mommy’s house, might make it a little difficult to undress him with your eyes without picturing yourself changing his diapers. This, as we like to say, is a mood killer.
Granted, some 22-year olds really have their crap together, and a hot cougar in her late 30s would be more than happy to work something out with this young frat boy – but the chances that a 50-year-old cougar would want to do the same are not quite as high. (Just because Hef did it with the bunnies doesn’t mean all cougars want to do it with all the cubbies.)
The real trick to working out the age spread is not to count the years in the gap but to look for the interest and the spark. While it’s true that age is “just a number,” it’s also true that some people have the ability to make us forget really imporant things – like how to do basic math, like adding and subtracting (cougar age minus cub age equals…) Wait, what was the question again?
